Casting a Verbal Reflection onto a Mirror it Doesn't stick to!

Confusing title? Yeah , hopefully it will make sense in a min. We all engage in something in life that we look back at and say how did I ever agree to that! Don't get me wrong when I tell you what moment in my life I'm talking about , it taught me a lot and I gain the most precious thing in the world, my daughter. The moment I look back at is marrying or even talking to her mother, my ex wife . 

I think how did I miss the red flags ? Why did I keep the relationship even though the beginning had many downs . Answer, I was not in a place in my life at the time to know what to look for . I was young and just want to be interesting to someone and she found me . People say that there must have been good times. There were few compared to the bad . The one and only absolute good thing was my daughter . The rest was learning from it . Learning about relationships and who I was and who I was to become from it . 

When it was all said and done I learned a lot about myself. I stayed single for a long time . During that time she entertained many men . My only concern was my daughter . Now she's ten and I see many of her mothers character flaws coming out as personality traits. It's tough but I'm learning how to react to it . 

Needless to say her mother hasn't changed . But now her mother makes choices that are not in my daughters best interest and she has no clue why I'm not ok with them. Then suddenly she starts to cast her reflection on me but it won't stick. She tells me that I'm insecure and miserable , childish, and stick in the past! All things that she is but because she can't hear her own conscience she thinks it's me when in this mirror it's her own face she should be seeing. Even after given the warning not to play on the razors edge because the woman behind the curtain will be revealed , she does not stop . Her lies and accusations become her truth which turns into people's ideas of who I am . This mirror reflect back who she's is will reveal her true nature and bring to close the lies . I am not insecure , nor and I miserable ! I am not a story teller but, a presenter of truth!

How do you show someone that the reflection they are casting onto a teflon mirror is their own?