What to do....What to do... So many Choices!!

One of the worst things that could happen during the work day!!! Your hungry and all the choices around you are pretty much the same or just worn out. That's what happening right now ! Like most, my current place of employment has a strip of asphalt lined with quick stop grease marts. For those that are a little more sophisticated , fast food facilities. Then there are the bolted to the ground not going anywhere cuisines, again for those that require proper terminology , staple cuisines. Yes, the food is good and will accomplish the goal that your body has required but, this is not so when your brain says hey shut up, I'm trying to decide!

So lets see the choices:

McDonald's

Burger King 

Wendy's

Taco Bell

Popeye's

Subway

Then there are the staple cuisines:

Asian

Pizza

soup and sandwiches

BBQ

Latino

and gas station food

These choices may do the trick but , there is one question to be answered!! 

Which one are you tired of the least!!

Just Stop Talking

Have you ever had those mornings where you are not quite ready to talk or carry on a conversation? That's usually not the case with me but , today that's how I feel. Its not specific to anyone person . For some reason I'm not ready for the questions or small talk.


I hear.....

Response.....

And how I  feel....

Like I said , how I feel this morning is not specific to anyone person. I'm sure i will be over this soon!!

Why Forgive if You Can Never Forget

When I was younger forgiving was easy , even though you didn't forget. I just wanted to have as many friends as possible even if they were not the best friend they could be to me. I was very accepting and knew that no one was perfect, not even me. You look at what you can do, where you can go , and all that is measured in fun, not friendship , or family. You form bonds , some as strong as family some as strong as the alcohol or drug you may consume together. That's just kids stuff though, we are still learning at that point . Being an adult facing the same things , minus the drugs and alcohol of course, the results are a lot different .

As an adult I Require fewer friends. This wasn't an over night achievement, more so a gradual reduction of useless weight on my life's journey . Which means the friends I have remaining and currently have, I consider family . We have our differences, which can sometimes lead to arguments but, like family it can't cause a divide.

The reason for this post is because I had a friend that was family to me and there was a falling out. Someone that she had brought into our lives and the lives of those around us decided to do something that was not acceptable by no means . When confronted, there was denial that slowly turned into a war of words . I simply asked for a time to talk about this and find out where to go from there. Like most people these days she only wanted to do this over the phone and the douche bag in question couldn't even grow a pair and talk to me. I offered several chances to fix things and nothing was done.

The final decision to part was when she decided to try to drive a wedge between me and my fiancee by making accusations. when that didn't work she then changed lanes and try to accuse my fiancee of things . Like the other attempts she was shut down and then decided to put the final nail in the coffin that contained possibilities to fix the situation and also our friendship. she decided to say that I was a shitty dad .

Say what you will about me but, keep my kids out of it. Its been two years and we haven't talked . She has contacted my fiancee a couple of times but made no attempt to talk or see her. Today she decided to text and say that her daughter misses us and wants to try to fix things. This to me is an insincere attempt to make amends. I feel she has burned other bridges and we are her rebound friends.

I have a hard time forgiving if things are taken to far. When you know what words can do the most damage to hurt another you tend not to use them if you care. For me, she used those words and chose someone she barley knew and , had fucked up royally , over the family bond she had formed with us.
I know I will never forget but, worse than that I don't think I can forgive.

Opportunity Minus the Brain

We have all heard the sayings, " There's no time like the present" , Why do tomorrow , what you can do today", or as Nike states " just do it". These statements are all pro active and meant to get you going. I don't believe they are aimed at lazy people to become motivated or ambitious rather, aimed towards those that have these attributes and just required that little post it note of momentary inspiration before they dive in head first.

We see examples of this in good and bad decisions. You know, the momentary thought you have before you do something . For instances , I know  this needs to be done but....... well , "there's no time like the present" , and boom your off to the races and the task is complete. Great , right? Then there is the down side. I know I shouldn't be doing this but......... "just do it", and Oh shit I shouldn't have done that , ouch it hurts, am I bleeding , Is it bad ? You left looking stupid, as well as other emotions i sure, with a lasting physical memory of how you applied a simple statement to the  thought process. We now know what opportunity minus the brain looks like.

Guess what? Hidden between the lines underneath that motivation and ambitious attitude lies the secret message! 

Wait for it........wait for it....... oh there it is....."Do it right the first time " !

This is where those with brains fall into the "minus brain arena" . My job it to take information given to me and use it to supply more detailed information so an issue can be resolved . This is easy to do when the people providing the information stay in the positive end of having brains. Everything that needs to be resolved is, in an orderly and fluid like fashion. When they start to evade those ever so popular sayings , you know the ones mentioned in the beginning of this post, things start to become difficult. so you try will good intention and your best foot forward to retrieve the information you require and you find a cavity forming in the skull. As the person speaks you see this cavity grow larger . Then there is the reasoning why they don't have the information or why they can not give it to you at that moment so you can resolve the now pressing issue.

All this time goes by and without a good reason , retarding the fluid like process that maintains a productive day. The next time you or anyone else are working towards a goal or are resolving and issue make sure all hands on deck are vaccinated for short term cavityskullatitus!! Treatment also includes doing it right the first time!

Survival of the Fittest at its Best

As parents we strive to teach our kids the best values , the best approach at life's challenges, and most of all try to protect them even when they are on their own . We can not be there for every decision to ensure they make the best/ safest one. We can not live there life for them . All we can do is teach them and pass on the knowledge and wisdom we have gained through our own struggles and short comings. There is just one problem........NATURAL FUCKING SELECTION!!!!!

What happens when survival of the fittest comes to play? The best/ brightest come out of the wood work but , don't be fooled by this, So does the dumbest/dimmest!

What the hell is wrong will kids these days? You have the duct tape challenge, dew shine ( not the actual mountain dew shine) , and kids holding each others arms and dangling off a building. These things are not exclusive to the United States, due to social media. The disease called , lackofcommonsenseatitis, and Dumbassatosis , spreads through the cables and engulfs the weak minded .


Let me explain!

The Duct Tape challenge .....

People are tied with Duct Tape  for three minutes, and in that time have to escape.  The challenge and reaction is recorded and the video posted to social media,  using the hashtag #ducttapechallenge.

Yeah , it doesn't sound that dangerous but, in recent news we heard about a teen that fell , hit his head , and ended up in the hospital with severe head injuries as well as others. 

Dew shine...

This is a mixture of Mountain Dew and racing fuel.

Not the actual Dew Shine produced by Mountain Dew

 Big difference!

Its obvious to most that only one of these is fit for human consumption. Yet again, there are those that just don't have the mental capacity to realize this. There are 4 deaths associated with this backyard rocket science experiment, so far.

That brings me to , hanging off of buildings. This is being done by teens in Russia. There is no name for this but it still makes this post because its right up there with the other two . I don't really think i have to explain this, it does that itself.

Just when you thought people where getting smarter and there was enough warning labels, natural selection takes a big bite! Lets face it the more we warn the riskier the attempts!

I Don't Care To Know

With all the breakthroughs in science and its many categories, and the benefits and non benefits they provide, I still don't care to know . Then there are the sayings , " you only live once" and " Life is too short " , and still I don't care to know.

I'm talking about knowing where it all started , where we come from , why we are here, where we are headed , and ultimately where do we go when we end and everyone else continues. I just don't care to really know. Why spend a lifetime, wondering if, we can looking around and enjoy whats here . The things that scientists didn't bring to life but, are just simply, here for science to wonder why. 

Walk outside and just listen , to the trees, the breeze that flows through them. Look up at the sky , and the clouds in it. 

.......Just look and listen..........Enjoy!!!

I Don't Know if This Exists

We are currently having a snow storm here in New England . The usual cold , wet, icy , slick , don't leave your house kinda storm. 

While there are so many things you can do while the power is on , I had an idea while standing in the back porch just watching the snow fall and be blown in multiple directions . Heated driveway. Yes this only makes it easier to maneuver in that one location , in my plan it does much more. 

Have you ever seen the heating element on an electric griddle or home fryer? It's a solid piece of metal with and electrical plug on the end. If this was to be inserted into a tube with a not flammable fluid that would radiate heat and, would provide a sufficient amount to metal snow and ice accumulation on your driveway. Obviously we would have to provide numerous amount of styles and material for the portion you actually drive on. 

The heated tubes would be installed under the driveway material. Where does the water go you ask? I have a solution for that as well . The melted water would then flow into drains , installed at either side of the driveway. It would then be pumped into a storage container. In this container it would be filtered and sanitized to the point it becomes drinkable. This will eliminate the need for bottled water in the home . The excess water can be stored in an additional container for later use or for garden , etc , purposes. 

Yes I know it sounds expensive but if technology today can produce slim hand held computers , that we call cell phones , I'm sure the same people can devise a way to make this accessible to consumers. 

A smaller, home friendly, piece of technology everyone can afford !!